Sunday, October 9, 2005

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It is my opinion that when one assumes the role of community leader (in any community) one forfeits all rights to public opinion - personal or otherwise.  I feel safe in saying, I'm not alone in this thought.

This year's Vivi Awards are supposed to be a community-wide supportive event where we can promote journals we like and recognize them for their uniqueness.  This gives many of us a chance to read journals we might not have otherwise found on our own.  So far, I've read quite a few new-to-me journals that I'm enjoying, based on the public nominations alone.

And we've only just begun.

I would like to remind everyone (myself included) that the awards are named after a valuable member of our community who started it all.  Someone we all know and love.  Seriously, is there one person who can honestly say, "Vivian who?"

I didn't think so!

So in the spirit of the community and for the sake of the awards, I urge all of us to stop reading the personal opinions of those running the show.  Since one in particular refuses to hear my plea and continues to add fuel to a fire, it's up to the rest of us to keep this community together. Differences and all.  Just like Vivian started!

Let it go and have fun.  Why else bother?

Let's remember : "VIVA LA VIVI"


xzasporated1 said...

As usual Freee, you bring sanity to an insane world.

And, wouldn't it be wonderful to be so beloved as to only need to go by one name:  Vivian.  We must NOT let any pettiness allow us to tarnish the glow of the person who embodies the spirit of the awards.

And there will be no more from me.  I promise!

~~ jennifer

maajr58 said...

i like peace

maajr58 said...

i like peace 2  j

babyshark28 said...

Isn't there fun rolling around?  If there isn't...I don't want to hear about  :P

I am so out of the loop.

bridgetteleigh75 said...

Viva La Vivi!


aims814 said...

I have no idea what this is about. But I DO KNOW and LOVE Vivian!

njlittlebear said...

All I wanna know is, WHERE'S MY AWARD !!!


cneinhorn said...


jeanno43 said...

Well said.

armandt said...

Does this mean that our Community Leaders who are Congressmen, Senators, and Presidents ought to forfeit their Right to public opinion?

dackbdimble said...

sheesh, armandt!!  that's going a little overboard, don't ya think?  or, am i missing something?  is the president a Jlander?  is he running any shows around here?  if so, point me to him!!  

Dysfunctional Sue

dackbdimble said...

oh yeah, i forgot:


Dysfunctional Sue

jevanslink said...

i did not have a problem with any of the issues raised and discussed.  I think the criticisms were understandable on one level, and very well addressed by the exact right person.  For the most part it was all a tempest in a teapot anyway.  And only makes the VIVIs better in the long run.  Mrs. L  

dragonrose3911 said...

I'm sorry. I disagree with you and I agree with Patrick on this one. He isnt a leader. He is doing it for US!! And his opinion does matter.

chasenkids said...

Well said!!

(I rarely comment.... but I read your blog often. I have you on alerts and read at work...)


derasta said...

You may not be alone in your thought, but there are also others who feel differently, such as myself.  This is something that Patrick is doing for the good of our journaling community, and by him explaining himself in defense of a comment made in regards to himself, I do not feel he was out of line.  It would be great if we could all focus on the good people do, instead of picking on rubbish. I wonder who will volunteer to do this next year...after seeing the nit picking going on this year...

chasingmoksha said...

I do indeed appreciate your stance on this situation.  A true community is diverse, and should stay that way for everyone's sake.  

pattboy92 said...

I DO very much appreciate your post here, Freee.  I might argue with the notion that a leader DOESN'T have the right to have an opinion, but there is certainly a difference between HAVING the right and EXERCISING it.  In any case, I see your point and I thank you for speaking out about it and getting us back on track.


sepintx said...

Good post in that I think it's had a positive effect. Using one's point position in a group community pursuit like the ViVis to lash out is not appropriate.

I understand what happened and I am sure the pressure is intense. I've been in similar positions and somehow I learned to keep my personal feelings in check. Learning those lessons is leadership. It's not how you stumble, it's learning to see when you start to stumble.

ryanagi said...

I'm glad a few people comment on the various tiffs that occur in this community...otherwise I'd miss all the dirt. ;-)  (Wandering back to my sweet oblivion now...)

krobbie67 said...

All I want to know is have I won Queen of J-Land yet so I can announce my departure? Sheesh. All this bally-who is throwing a monkey-wrench in my schedule.
;-p --- Robbie

freeepeace said...

Derasta - I understand that others, including yourself, feel differently.  That's the beauty of this community.  Diversity.  This is the third year of these community awards.  Each year, there are different issues.  Patrick is doing an outstanding job handling the intensity of all angles.  We're all just working it out as we go along.

Moksha - Agreed! :)

Patrick - Thank you for all your hard work.  I do appreciate it.  It's a huge undertaking.  This plus all the blogs you have, I don't know how you even find time to come here and comment.  ;)

Becky and Robbie - YOU get my howling laughter award. Thank you!!  ROFL!

Sharky says:  "Isn't there fun rolling around?  If there isn't...I don't want to hear about it."

I say:  Right on Sharky!  I hear you.  Fun is indeed rolling around.  Join us, won't you?  You deserve it! xo

freeepeace said...

To all first-time commenters: WELCOME.  Thank you for your visit.  And thanks for leaving links.  I'm looking forward to meeting you.

To those who've been here before, as always, thank you too!  Your voices are comforting.

Armandt - If our Congressmen, Senators and Presidents were counting the ViVi votes, then yes - they ought to forfeit their right to public opinion.  Don't mess with a ViVi. ;)

Felicia - Thank you for sharing your thoughts.  I agree that Patrick's opinion does matter.  I wasn't discounting him as a person.  He's running the show in the name of Vivian.  If these were the Patty-Awards, I wouldn't think twice about how he runs his show.  My concern was that some of the community might think he's biased in his opinions while counting votes.  Those of us who know him may completely trust his judgment.  There's a fine line.  Still, I hear you. His opinion does matter.  And I look forward to hearing it after all the votes are counted.

babyshark28 said...

yes, why don't I join in?  :)

armandt said...


Perhaps I took you way too literally.  As a forensic statement analyst, I can tell you that enclosing a clause in parenthesis gives extra emphasis to the enclosed words.  (I think that's one of those things most of us realize and just never put into words).

When you put "in any community" in parenthesis, that meant /any/ community.

I think we'll both agree that there's a significant difference between a leader (in any community) and a leader (who is counting votes in an election where they're not a candidate).

~ Armand

andreakingme said...

Great post. Even greater responses to the comments. Atta girl!