Tuesday, March 30, 2004

Letting Go

Remember the clients I lost recently? [let it go] The ones with the mansion?  [let it go] The ones who left their dogs in a cage in the kitchen with no water? [let it go]  The ones who consistently paid me inconsistently? [let it go] The ones who still owe me money?  [let it go]  I miss their dogs a lot. [let it go]  So I called them [Ohh no!]

Oh yes.  I requested to see the dogs one last time so I could say goodbye.  The child-woman first insulted me by referring to me as "just a dogwalker" and then insisted it was "weird" that I wanted to see the dogs.  She squirmed and chickened out of answering my request.  She wanted to check in with her grandpa-boyfriend before calling me back.  We hung up - and I knew I'd never see those dogs again.

I cried. [letting them go]

Speaking of letting go...

I'm getting my hair cut today for the first time in over a year.  It's a big deal.  I'm really excited.  I don't usually get this excited about cutting my hair because I'm all for letting it grow to the ground.  But I must be maturing.

A couple of years ago, I had long, thick, gnarly dreadlocks.  I loved them for the first year and a half.  At some point, they took on a form of their own and eventually they were just too much.  I made an appointment with the only person I trust to do anything to my hair. We spent four hours cutting and unknotting the locks in August 2002.

I was short-n-sassy for a while.  And for the first time in my life, I loved it.  Still, I couldn't wait for it to grow in.  I just love the feeling of flowing hair.

Well, here we are, a year and a half later.  I'm so ready for layers and style again!  I'm blessed with healthy, thick, dark, wavy hair.  It's in the genes I guess.

It's taken me years to love the hair I have.  It's been bleached and streaked, dyed red, purple and plum. It's been permed and straightened. It's had tiny braids, twisties and dreadlocks.  And today I love it just the way it is.  Although, I am considering highlights. Ha!  We'll see what my dear-friend-hairdresser says.  It's all up to her!

21 comments:

derossetfamily said...

((hugs)) so sorry about the dogs! As far as the hair goes, I think Ive done all of the above as well, other than the dreads, came close once though, then changed my mind. have fun getting your hair done!
~Mary

mallory4284 said...

What cute dogs. That's so sad about them. :( I think she should have let you see them one last time. I would think that if she had any kind of heart, she would understand what it's like to get attached to a pet/animal and then have to give up getting to see them. I cried when my cat Tucker had to go to his new home when he was six weeks old. Lucky for me though we got him back a few months later....

How'd the hair cut go?? Do we get to see some webcam shots?

-- Mallory :)

miarenee24 said...

Hey hon! Grrrr, it really makes me mad to hear of anyone treating their dogs, which are supposed to be family members like that! There is NO way someone of that nature could understand why you'd want to say goodbye to the pups. Why even have them? I just don't get it!
2nd..about your hair. I can't wait to see the new style! (the past styles too;) xo!

jennipooh3597 said...

"Just a dogwalker"???????????????? :::kick::: (my mouth actually dropped at that one!) Geesh! I go through the same dilemmas with the hair thingee! I hate it! I love long hair..but...sometimes... I go to the salon...just so they can spend an hour making it look like I never got it cut! I'm a freak. Maybe I'll grow up someday? At least you have reached a happy relationship with your hair :) L, Jenn

montaukny said...

Aaaarrrgggghhhhh! I can't believe that she actually said "you're just the dogwalker"!!! Sheesh! I hope she gets treated as poorly as she treats her dogs when the time comes for someone to stick her in a nursing home somewhere. I feel so sorry for those 2 cute pooches! As for the hair, I've been through about as much as you have. I had pin straight hair until I reached 30 & for the past 7 years, it's been getting curlier & curlier! Figure that 1 out! ~Aunt Nub~

irun01 said...

Sorry to hear you are sad . . . .
I'm looking forward to seeing your haircut. You could always get it cut like mine . . . . Yeah, that would be awesome.

grodygeek said...

I envy your hair. I always have. I think you have such beautiful hair and I'm glad you got to tease and abuse and color and it bouces back. And I know exactly why your sad about seeing a pet. I've been better treated by most dogs that most humans. Whats that tell you? Gordy

wessolo said...

Wow. It's really hard not to dislike rich people, don't you think? Just for one year I'd love for them to know the way real life is, the joy we, the proletariat, find in things like animals, our jobs, being alive, making it past another brutal week to have a beer with our friends. In some ways I feel sorry for the rich. They will never know the simple pleasures the way we do. I hope the dogs bite them.
- Jamey

hempenhomespun said...

I always had really short hair. After going from poor college student to broke college graduate and realizing that haircuts are a luxury, I let it grow out.

I almost cried when I got it trimmed last month.

I think you have beautiful hair. I can't wait to see what you do with it!

andreakingme said...

Trish, I'm sorry the idiot child-woman hurt your feelings. What a you-know-what. For someone to actually SAY that (and to behave the way she has in the past), you KNOW this gal is one sad, unhappy person. No matter how much money she has. No matter that she lives in a mansion.

My heart breaks for the dogs. This just sucks. (Honey, you can't save them all. You just can't.)

babyshark28 said...

dang! I missed this one.
those people! no wonder there lousy pet owners, they own no loving instincts. they lack heart...sorry about that, freee :( but, if your letting it go, so will I.

dred locks, my sister is wearing dred locks and living in guatamala (sp?) short and sassy-that's how I prefer my hair. thinking about growing it out though...for the first time in...7 years!

highlights...I'd like to see that :P

freeepeace said...

First, I think it's only fair to say I think I made a mistake in the symantics of my entry. The woman did imply I was "just a dogwalker" by saying, "this is too much drama JUST for dogwalking!" She was referring to the message I left saying they haven't paid me on time or the right amount [it was like the 5th message in 5 weeks - so I was not sweet and nice about it at that point. I was firm and direct.]

Still, her implication was clear to me - the way they had been treating me all along - this summed it up. And all I could think of was their poor housekeeper who was complaining to me one day about how she's always begging to get paid by them - she was their 3rd housekeeper because of that...and ready to quit.


MARY - You threatened to get your hair cut and styled recently. Has that happened yet? ;)

MALLORY - The dogs are cute. The best to photograph. The funnest to watch. The kindest. And the blonde one is a ball-hound. So it was all about chucking the ball for her while her brother chased her. I miss that.

MIA - When I questioned why she thought it was "weird" she said, "Oh we love our dogs. We think they're the best." She still insisted it was weird. Just a different mentality. I have to let it go.

JENN - At this moment, I wish my hair looked like I never got it cut. Then again, I have to remember, it's still in shock [gotta give it the full 14 days. grrr] So much for my new-found love for my hair huh? :P

freeepeace said...

AUNT NUB - I don't wish anything bad for them. They'll get theirs - or, they're getting it now. It's out of my hands. The greatest thing I can do is wish them well...and let it go. My hair changes every 7 yrs or so [curly, straight, wavy, etc]

IRUN - Actually, shaving my head has always been on my list of "things I wanna do to my hair" and I thought I would've done it after the dreads...but I just wasn't ready for that. It was quite short though.

GORDY - Aww, thanks for the hair compliments. And actually, my hair hasn't come back to its thickest state since the dreadlocks. It's much thinner and a little frail at the ends [it still locks up - I have to carefully pull it apart at the end of each day]

JAMEY - It would be nice for all of us to experience the opposite of the life we know, so we can gain perspective and have a little more compassion. I hear that. But I hope the dogs live prosperous lives. I don't wish they bite them - who knows what would happen to the dogs :(

HEMPEN - Good point about haircuts being a luxury. I'm almost crying today...but trusting in the two-week-plan.

ANDREA - I know I can't save them all. I hear that. And believe it or not, there are some dogs I don't really like. But I was really in love with these. ::sigh:: It's okay. Opens me up for bigger and better things. :)

SHARKY - I talked to my hairdresser about highlights. We may do-it-up next time. We'll see. She's all for it. I'd love to see a picture of your sister!

yakima127 said...

That client didn't respect you. Still doesn't. If they still owe you money, she was probably afraid if she let you see the dogs, you would hit her up for what they owe you. It is amazing how people will act/what they will say to keep those dollars in their pocket...cute dogs.

bridgetteleigh75 said...

You do have gorgeous hair. All that natural wave. Actually, you're hair reminds me alot of MINE! ::gasp:: LOL

Like you, I have really dark, really thick, really wavy hair. But I'm a sucker for highlights. The chunkier the better. <grin>

I say have fun with your hair.

bridgetteleigh75 said...

By the way...I think it's pretty shitty those dog-owners won't let you see Sam and Lucy again. I think you should sneak in and break them out. hehehe

donah42 said...

Awwww...I wouldn't normally advocate dog-napping, but I'd be damn tempted...

slowmotionlife said...

I'm sorry to hear that the girl-wife was mean to you. Vitch!! There's nothing weird at all about the fact that you had a relationship with those dogs - more of a relationship than she does, obviously. She probably just thinks you're trying to work in a way to make them pay you [which they should!]

And I think one of the best things about being a woman is our duty to play with our hair. LoL To change it up! I'm about to go for a change myself. Fun, Fun!

krobbie67 said...

I'm not a big fan of dreads. So glad you dumped them. To me, it always looks like the person needs a good hair washing. Purple hair!!! I'm soooo jealous. I've always wanted purple hair but working in the jobs I do I can't go rad. Bummer. :-( As far as the "child-bitch", fungu her! How rude! I think it's so sweet that you would want to say bye to her dogs. I miss my roommates' dogs. I even have a picture of them on my shelf. :-) ---Robbie

musenla said...

I'm sorry you didn't get to see those dogs again.  Their "owners" are awful, I remember the entries you made about those people, they don't deserve to have pets!

As for the hair, I think change is good.  When I'm feeling antsy the first thing I experiment with is my hair, although the last 3-4 years I've kept it really long.  I guess I'm enjoying long luxurious locks the way you do, esp since I was denied it as a child (my mom always had it razor short!).

somenuttychic said...

I am soooo not liking those people with the dogs. Just reading about it again breaks my heart. I'd have cried, too. Animals strike a chord with me and always have. They have no voice and for the most part, no rights. They are at the mercy (if they have any) of their owners and caretakers. It's heartbreaking.

Can hardly wait to see what the new "do" look like!